Why does he/she duped me

Have you ever been dumped in a relationship? Have you ever trusted your partner and in return you get a breakup certificate?
Am sure you have witnessed a situation where after accepting him/her as a lover they immediately turn you
down.

It happens all the time but the obvious question is why would anyone turns around and rejects someone after responding positively to their request? Sounds weird right?

But I can assure there're many reasons behind such actions which I am going to discuss and share with you in this article.

Can someone love me and cheat on me?

One of my readers once asked me that if someone loves you, can he cheat on you?

When I told her it's perfectly possible, she refused. As we started exchanging words, up to a certain
stage, I realized that she was actually referring to her relationship.
So I started stating her some reasons why someone can cheat on you while he/she loves you before she could be satisfied.

Yes, it's actually true that there're many people today who cheat for their different reasons. Some of them believe that cheating brings out their attractiveness. This happens most
with people who put much weight on personal appearance than other things.
When such people remain faithful in a relationship for a certain period of time, they thought that is because they're not attractive and so the next move is to start cheating to convince himself that he is still worthy and attractive.

This is not the only thing that makes people cheat on their partners but this is also one of the strongest factors behind such action.


Why does he/she duped me

Since there're many different factors that prompt various people to cheat over their partners, I will not recommend advices that work for particular people (What other writers
do) because using advice that work for a particular people may not do well for the other. That's why I am going to give
some of the reasons why most if not all CHEATERS dump their partners.

Below are reasons behind their actions :

* I am always the winner! Due to the kind friendship some people have, they develop a habit of always being the winner among their friends when it has to do with girls. In this case when they approach their target and propose a relationship, immediately their target accepts they dump her and jump to
another one (probably, a higher class) and it goes like that.

This mostly happens with guys who usually compare with other friends what class of girls they have and also how soon can they get these girls. Anytime they succeed they move to
another advanced stage. They behave in this manner τ̲̅ȍ convince themselves and others that they can get whoever
they desired.


* Past life experience: Some people got dumped as a result of their partners past life. Many people do not know this and so they attribute it to other things.

For example, If a boy who grew up feeling unloved will likely fall in love with any girl that he comes across provided that other factors are constant. When he finds out that he is handsome or attractive, he immediately dumped his partner since she was not his like.

The same thing happens when someone get into a relationship
because of external factors and not the relationship. As soon as he finds a cure to his problem, he immediately starts
withdrawing from you.


* Past relationship experience: The kind of relationship and friends we make in the past also mold our future relationship.

If a child has always fail to have a blonde, he may grow up with this impression. Now, what happens if he ever comes across any blonde? You will notice that he will do anything τ̲̅ȍ get her and as soon as she accepts, the next thing is that he dumps her. Sounds weird right?

The essence behind this is simple. He is just trying to makeup for his past failures. He does this to convince himself that although he failed in the
past, but he can still make it. This is what happens with most people suffering past relationship failure. They can do anything to get their victim but as soon as they know they have succeeded, in return they disappear just like that.

As you can see from the few above illustrations, you will discovered that most people who dumped or cheated on their partners are people who are not quite interested in the relationship but just there to use it as some kind of painkiller.

They are also suffering from mental judgment and so need a solution.

Relationship is not something that has to be used as idea for problem solving.

One Psychologist once said "Relationship for other purpose is likely to result in fun".

That’s why it's better to go the long way and a better mastery of someone you're
hoping to be with rather than hoping to get in the relationship before knowing Him or Her.

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